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Tags: relationships, readiness, ready to move on
 Heartaches can be a total backlog. It shrinks you internally and bombards every aspect of your self-esteem. It makes you curl up with your hand on your chest and cause you to cry yourself to sleep. When you are in the state of broken heart everything feels surreal and time stops.
You are in temporary state of psychosis, you feel like you’re going to breakdown and shout in the middle of Times Square. You stare at the wall with blank affect and when people talks to you, you respond in a slow motion manner. The only advantage of suffering from heartache is losing those ten pounds you’ve trying to shed off for the past two years.
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Heartache is starting to become an inconvenience that you begin to deal with it properly. So after a period of time you feel like you are ready to move on. Just to be really sure that you are ready to move on and not just trying to convince yourself, here are some signs that you are truly ready to move on.
He never occupies your mind anymore. Before when you’re still bleeding from your broken heart, he is the last person you think of before going to sleep and the first person you think in the morning. He is the primary focus of your thought. Everything revolves around him but if you are ready to move on your mind is preoccupied with a lot of things like your work, your yoga class, your friends, your escapades and new adventures.
Another point to remember that you’re ready to move on is you have no bitterness whatsoever in your past relationship. You embraced the pain of what you’ve been through because without it you will never have this same degree of appreciation for yourself and your life. You no longer recite the mantra of bitterness in your sleep.
Your friends are also relieved of the fact that you no longer talk about him. When you do talk about him, there is calmness and sense of acceptance. Before the mere fact of saying his name triggers you to have violent reactions. You know you are ready to move on when you let go of the idea of reuniting.
Before you pray every night and day that the two of you will get back together and love will be sweeter the second time around. You hope that he will come to his senses and call you, making you check your cellphone, answering machine and email every minute. You know you have moved on when you cannot imagine going back to him ever again.
Most importantly you know you are ready to move on when you are happy and contended of the way things are in your life. You are not desperate to look for a lover. You are taking your time enjoying the moment. You have accepted the fact that the break up happened for a reason and it was for the best.
You realized your mistakes and have learned from them. You are now wiser and more aware. You are now unaffected when you see your ex. You can now look at him and not a feeling of love or hate. When you are ready to move on, the worst part is over and the beginning of truly appreciating yourself begins.
Like a diamond, it has to go through a lot of painful polishing before it becomes really priceless.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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