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Tags: relationships, readiness, signs you are ready for marriage
 “When I grow up, I’m going find my Prince Charming and we are going to get married and I am going to wear this beautiful wedding gown with flowers all over and I’m going to live happily ever after” says my adorable, eight year old niece. Some women are no different from an eight year old when talking about getting married.
They can be so caught up with the idea of getting hitched that they lose the essence of it all. With the rate of divorce increasing every year, it’s just sensible to find out if one is really up for it or not. One of the signs that you are ready for marriage is that you are being realistic about it.
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You and your partner should take time to reflect and weigh things out. Write down the disadvantages and advantages, and think about whether getting hitched is really for you. If both of you find that you are just trying to convince yourselves its what you want, then you have to re-think your plans.
One of the signs you are ready for marriage is the quality and quantity of time you have spent with your partner. The more quality and quantity time you have spent with each other the better. It’s important that you know your lover in every aspect. It’s vital that you know his reactions and how he deals with things in various situations.
One of the major factors to know your lover totally is to get to know his family, his mother especially- have you heard the old saying “You will know a man by how he treats his mother?” it’s true, observe how he treats his mom and you will know how you will be treated.
It is also significant that you are grounded with his values and standards to know if both of you are on the same page. Opposites do attract but concerning things that matter its better if you and your lover are compatible. Furthermore, you know you are ready for marriage if you have liberated yourself of certain issues from your past and yourself.
Marriage takes maturity, wisdom and sense of responsibility and if you are jaded with self interest, immaturity and insecurity then it is best not think about marriage for your sake. It’s also necessary that you have gotten over you past relationship or relationships. If your past still bears a weight in your chest, it’s only fair that you deal with it, before taking your vows.
Another sign that you are ready for marriage is you see beyond the physical aspect of your partner. Since you will be spending the rest of your life with your lover expect that with the years to come his six-pack abs will possibility turn into one big mountain of flab and his rich golden locks will vanish and turn into a shiny bald spot.
You cannot fight gravity, so be sure that you love your partner for his character and substance. Another crucial element that proves you are ready for marriage is if you are willing to compromise. Married life includes a lot of compromises, if this is too hard for you, then it’s not going to last.
Before planning to get married, draft out the life that you want to live. Talk about your future like children and work. Lastly, you know you are ready for marriage if there is deep trust, respect, honesty and unconditional love in your relationship and there is no feeling of being pressured into saying your “I do’s”.
Marriage is one of the most crucial things you ever get to decide upon, be sure you do it for the right reasons.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's latest ebook on Finding Mr. Right. Discover how you can Find Your True Love here.
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