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Tags: relationships, singles, choosing the right husband
 It has been said that you have to be very careful and keen about choosing the right husband because ninety percent of your misery or happiness depends on it. Choosing the right husband can make or break you, that’s why it’s one of the most essential decisions you have to make.
Women today are so consumed of the idea of love that they tend to overlook the real person in their lover. They allow themselves to drown in romance along with their sanity that they miss to see the reality of things. I have to apologize to burst your romantic bubbles but in choosing the right husband you should use sixty percent of your brain and forty percent of your heart.
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Don’t get me wrong, love is very vital to have a happy relationship but as the years go by, things sometimes get too familiar and you tend to get bored. What I mean is, a marriage based on emotions alone can sometimes wane especially if it’s saturated. That’s why along with love, there should be profound acceptance.
When I say profound acceptance, you will able to see your potential partner not just in one dimension but his whole person. You have to amplify your senses and discern what kind of person your potential husband is. Is he a good son, brother, friend, boss or employee? Is he kind to animals? Does he care about the environment? does he vote? Believe it or not, these things are not trivial.
These are the factors that will give you an idea about his awareness and sense of responsibility to himself and others. Here are some other important factors that can help you in choosing the right husband. Intelligence, I don’t mean that you have to choose the reincarnate of Einstein but find someone with substance instead of superficial good looks.
Being with someone who has a good brain in his skull have a greater potential for growth in mental, emotional and financial aspect. This is important because a stagnant relationship is a dull relationship. And mind you, sexual stimulation fades through time but mental seduction can delight anyone irregardless of generation and age.
The greatest thing about intelligence is its being hereditary, giving your children and their children’s children a higher rate of winning in the game of life. Another point to consider in choosing the right husband is the compatibility factor. Having the same views about values and morality can make your relationship a lot less stressful.
Also having the same standpoint with regards to rearing children, family background, financial and social dealings can put both of you on the same side of every decision. This can also lessen the hazards of in-law problems. You can survive without the in laws but having their approval and support can surely save you a lot of tensions.
Another major thing to look out for is his sense of responsibility or the degree of dependability. If your lover is very responsible and dependable then you and your kids will be in good hands. If his sense of responsibility is innate then you can count on him to fulfill his vows and promises every step of the way.
A responsible partner makes a good provider and a father. In choosing the right husband, don’t just think about yourself but think about having a family and what it takes to survive and excel in it.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Male Magnet Formula. Discover how to attract men like a magnet.
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