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Tags: relationships, singles, how to find love
 This is the story of my friend Ronna, she is 35 years old a banker, single, successful and an achiever. We actually call her Ronna the Robot because everyday of her life she has the same routine over and over again. One day, she came to my office at around 8am in the morning.
I was utterly surprised because this is definitely not part of her routine. She confided that she feels so tired and useless and she doesn’t know what to do. Every night in her room she cries herself to sleep. But last night she was really sobbing that her heart hurts.
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She also told me that she went to several physicians a few days ago to have a thorough check up but they all said there’s nothing wrong with her. Then, I told her bluntly “You need to get laid.” She was of course shocked and defensive. Trying to contradict what I said but I continued “You need another human being’s warmth and comfort.
For so long, you have been hiding behind your success.” Then I continued “You need to take care of yourself by loving someone and be loved by someone.” Then she asked “What makes you say that?” I said “Well for one thing, I know you are a very intelligent and logical person, you wouldn’t come into my office if it’s not about relationship- I am a relationship coach, you know.
If you are having a breakdown, you will step in your shrink’s office, not mine.” With that, she conceded and said. “I love my work, it’s my life, it gives me a purpose, it makes me somebody to someone. I don’t know what I am going to be without my work but at the same time I need someone to hug me and take care of me.
I miss being loved and cuddled and all that stuff.” Like Ronna, a workaholic single, finding love can be a dilemma because I know workaholics will never compromise their work for anything else. So before telling Ronnna some high- faluting advice in finding love like- not make your living your life and never let your work defines you, I gave her instead some practical advice that she can do immediately in finding love and I am going to share this to you.
In finding love for workaholics, you have to set a time for it. Since workaholics cannot live without schedules and deadlines, you have to schedule your “meeting other people” time or your “unwinding and social” time. During this moment go to places that interests you, like museum and auction houses if you love to meet people who have some fascination with cultural stuff.
Workaholics are like successful high school children inside, they may be thriving financially but emotionally they are failing. In finding love for workaholics, don’t be afraid to approach people in the crowd. A simple smile and a simple hello and open romantic opportunities. Another way on how to find love is to take care of yourself.
Again schedule a “beautification” time- this can be signing up for gym class or yoga, it’s also a great opportunity to meet some one new. It is not how to find love that is difficult for professional singles- it’s opening up and risking to show their vulnerability. The only way you can get through this is not to mind people who don’t like and mind only those who do.
Lastly, in finding love, you have to be lovable yourself. You attract people that are like you. You if you want find somebody lovable and kind, you know what to do.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Male Magnet Formula. Discover how to attract men like a magnet.
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