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Tags: relationships, singles, look for in a lover
 Everybody needs somebody. This is a human need- a need so strong that some people would just go for the next person that shows them a hint of interest. Some people get so impulsive in choosing a partner that they never consider what they are really looking for in a lover.
Knowing what to look for or want in partner is very vital. The harmony of your relationship depends on it. Whether your inclination for a partner is the bad boy type or the silent type, you should know that basic things to look for in a lover. Here are some few basic guidelines in what to look for in a lover.
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First, it should be someone that you can be yourself with. Some men or women I know would go for the most attractive, most good looking person or most moneyed. They choose someone who is too good looking or too rich for them that they become too conscious to be themselves.
They would rather choose to pretend to somebody they are not to impress their target partner. If you do this, you will have a hard time if ever you’ll end up together. When the time comes that you will reveal your true self, you’ll find out that you have nothing in common.
I think is the most practical thing to look for in a partner, someone who can love you as you are and someone that you can be your true self with. It doesn’t matter if you are the end of two poles or finishes each other sentences, as long as he or she respects your individuality, its okay.
Finding someone that you can be yourself with can save you painful heartaches and disappointments. Another basic characteristic in what to look for is someone that you can respect. I know this man who married a woman because he said “she loves me unconditionally.” He means unconditionally is because she caught him fooling around countless times but she never reprimanded him, not even once.
Now, after three years of being married he complains of intolerable traits of his wife. With no direction and mistresses here and there, he is miserable as hell. My point here is, keep your head straight when choosing a partner. If you can stomach to cheat on him or her just save yourself some trouble and find someone that you can respect through and through.
Another important thing in what to look for in a lover is someone that inspires you to be better. Find that someone that inspires you to do good things. Find that someone who encourages you to be productive in all aspect of your being. I believe that no matter how ideal the person is, if he or she doesn’t know how to hit that “good” nerve in you, then it’s futile.
Again, look for a lover that you can be yourself with, someone that you can respect and lastly someone who inspires you to be a better person. Do all that and you’ll have the relationship that you have always wanted.
About the author
The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Male Magnet Formula. Discover how to attract men like a magnet.
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