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Tags: relationships, wedding, wedding jitters
 After a long time of getting-to-know each other period and long engagement, the moment of truth is at hand. The date of your marriage ceremony day is just a few winks away. You don’t know why but instead of having that ethereal feeling of happiness, you feel like an impending doom is about to happened.
Every time you think of your wedding ceremony day, you heart beats fast, your hands become cold and clammy, your become pale white, nauseous and you feel like fainting. This is incomprehensible, you say. You should feel excited and happy because this is the moment that you have been waiting for.
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After so many years of ups and downs in your relationship this is what it’s all about. You and him taking a vow of endless togetherness. Sealing the deal. With all this salad of emotions, you get to question if you’re doing the right thing. Maybe you’re one of those girls who want what they cannot have and now that it’s in their reach, you don’t want it anymore.
Maybe you’re just too pressured by the band wagon of getting hitched in women your age. Maybe getting married is the only way to go after a long time of going steady, getting married is the only choice that’s why you are forced into doing it. These are just a few of unanswered questions that bombards you mind.
These fears and anxiety you have are normal if you are about to get married in a few days or weeks. This is what you call wedding jitters or cold feet syndrome. It is called “cold-feet” because your feet literally feel cold from fear and because you feel like backing-out from your wedding day.
The truth of the matter is that wedding jitters are just another form of anxiety. The best way to deal with wedding jitters is to deal with it like you deal with anxiety. Relax, breath and go steady. Clear your mind. Instill that what you are going through is very much normal.
You are about to take a humongous step in your life, with unknown consequences and measures. If you don’t feel anxious about that then that is not normal. Even the most inlove and the most riches couple feel wedding jitters before they tie the knot. So keep that in mind that what you’re feeling is customary and you have nothing to worry about.
Another helpful way in dealing with your wedding jitters is to talk to friends about it, especially recently married friends. Seeing your married friend’s view of wedding jitters and married life can surely calm you down. Talking to your partner about your wedding jitters may not be a good idea because he may be in the same exact dilemma.
Talking to him will just fuel both your fears. Instead write down in a piece of paper the great things about your partner. Write down the most unforgettable and most romantic times you had together. After that, write down all your fears and worries. Jotting down those stuff can make you see the whole picture.
And last but not the least, hire a wedding planner. Delegate and enjoy this time of your life, pamper yourself and keep yourself beautiful for your big day. This is a one of a life time event in your life, try to enjoy it and savor every minute of it.
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The author of this article, Ruth Purple, is a successful Relationship Coach who has been helping and coaching individuals and couples for many years. Get your copy of Ruth's ebook The Powerful Secrets of Seduction. Learn how you can seduce any man that you fancy with so much ease and subtlety.
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